October 3, 2011

sidewalk mary/or: the american dream

humbly, i am teaching my children that sidewalk mary is a person
with a whole life, a whole story, and the story is important,
and because she is sitting on the sidewalk every day in
sticky heat or dripping sky,  car exhaust and
dust

doesn't mean she is insane.  it means she is dusty. 
hot.  sticky.
that she has a moustache does not mean
she is insane.  or unclean.  or a man.
that she is surrounded
by teddy bears and is always
rocking one on her shoulder, patting and

rocking to    rocking fro
rocking to    rocking fro

means she is rocking her bear, and maybe she loves it.  she was a child once
just like they are and they love their stuffed bears too, right? 
who can't sleep without doggie?  maybe she has no one else to love.  we
talk.  we explore. 

and maybe we could take her
a root beer, on a hot day
or a cocoa, on a cold day
and take her a new teddy. 

let her know we see her.  that she is. 

at first they think i am maybe making valid points but still
--cynics the bunch of them--
who but the insane wear a moustache when they are a woman,
or sit on the sidewalk every day? 

but my children are learning compassion, and relativism. 
that we all do not live the same way.  they have come to think this
teddy and drink idea is a good one.  they wonder where sidewalk mary is
when we drive by and the corner is unoccupied.
what about taking a few of the cookies grandma sent us?  let's sit with her, they
say.  tomorrow, i say.  i'm happy they have good will.  they are generous with
their love. 

but i am afraid that when we sit by her, she will pull a knife on us.
this is the part i do not tell my children.

4 comments:

  1. like the difference between sex and love.

    how to teach children of the dark side, without them experiencing it. once bitten, stabbed, sullied, can't get completely back. sometimes better for it, most times didn't really need that.

    sort of like sex without love. can't go back, forever entangled, something lost that was on the verge of being found, in its own time.

    recreational sex is what sidewalk mary is up to.

    innocence helps, things happen, but prior awareness brings the regrets.

    and you don't know until it's far too late. don't go there.

    lovely children. precious. precious mother, concerned. no greater love.

    tell them. gently, impartially, like you might tell them that the tetons are beautiful, but don't tempt them, don't fall off them, they are unforgiving to assaults, but will not assault if you respect them at a protective distance. and the snake is beautiful, serene, but there are other, deadly snakes.

    sidewalk mary is just different, but keep your distance. do not accept rides or candy from strangers. hard not to. that's what they are counting on.

    "we sleep soundly in our beds because rough men stand ready in the night to visit violence on those who would do us harm."

    leave it to the rough men - they have been elastic in their collisions, or just have greater knowledge and, just maybe, greater love by virtue of more dimensions probed, more cracks in the fabric understood.

    keep your children's collisions elastic, until they know and decide for themselves.

    vive la différence. les fous, les criminels, les nuisibles, sera toujours avec nous, apparemment, jusqu'à ce que nous enlever le côté sombre. vive la clôture.

    through something to sidewalk mary over the fence. don't expect anything back - better that way. she may want to be on your side of the fence, but that is up to her, alone. can't force her. she pushes back.

    your sidewalk mary piece is a beautiful statement, anguish in love, just like it is. leave it.

    you didn't ask for that, i know. but some men are rough because they are compelled, by some unknown force or karma, to try to protect.

    neither you nor they need to experience the pain of asking forgiveness from those that are no longer there to give it.

    so keep a rough thing between your children and the dark side. mama grizzly. the world will intrude all too soon. that's the hard one.

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  2. 'Throw,' not 'through,'in comment 1 - shooting from the hip has a downside. Je regrette

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  3. OK, so I hate to be pedestrian, but sidewalk Mary is a guy .... :)

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  4. pedestrian, get it?! --this is def. a woman reveling in selfdom. in a very atypical and brave fashionless fashion.

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